A Sad Time

For someone very special
For someone very special

This is the most difficult blog post I have ever made and I have agonised over whether to publish this or not.

Yesterday my mother lost her battle with long term illness and I lost a wonder mother. As I write this I can barely see the keyboard so I hope you will forgive me for keeping this brief. I wasn’t there at the very end for her although I dearly wish I could have been. Despite being ill for some time and spending the last few months in hospital, the end came without warning.

She was a wonderful, kind lady who loved to help others. She also loved donkeys and had been donating money to the donkey sanctuary for the past 30 years. I had been looking for a picture to print to hang in her room and only now that it’s too late have I found the one she would have loved.

Although this is so hard to write it’s somehow helping me. There are so many things that I now wish I had said but my chance has gone. I love you mum and will always keep your memory with me.

I hope everyone will forgive me if I now take a few days off and reply to any emails/questions when I return.

28 thoughts on “A Sad Time

  1. Robin
    Please accept my condolences. This will be a very difficult and reflective time for you. All that I can say, after my experience, never does a day go by without thinking about my mum, who will always be with me,

    With deepest sympathy


  2. Condolences to you Robin – I lost my mother not so long ago and know how tough it can be.
    Without being platitudinous, those long walks taking pictures that you so obviously love doing, will probably help you through…… I hope your mum was proud of your photography.
    Take Care………..

  3. Everyone has a mom… you got lucky and got a Great One! I went thru this passage of life in 2007… and now I am at peace with my mom being gone. You have the memories and I am sure the pictures that always help.
    All the best to you and your family. Please hug a donkey and she will know you are continuing with her wonderful cause. I enjoy your “take” on photos and life! Enjoy some personal time. I am truly sorry.

  4. Robin, I am so sorry to hear about your Mum but one thing that you should think about which will help you is that your Mum no longer has to suffer from her long term illness. She is at peace now. I lost my Mum when I was 18 & she was in her early 40’s. I still think about & miss her 52 years later.
    Please accept my condolences.

  5. So sad to hear your news, please accept my condolences. Mums are so wonderful and it is only when they are not here any more that you fully realise this, I know I lost mine four years ago. If you get a chance read Henry Scott Hollands poem – ‘Death is nothing at all’, it helped me, though still does bring a tear to my eye.

  6. My deep sympathy. Reminds me when I lost my mother after she suffered a massive stroke, but I made it to the hospital a hundred miles away and held her hand as she passed away. The picture is beautiful. One wonders what these creatures are thinking. Like dogs, they never complain but relish love and kindness. Thanks for such a wonderful blog in which your on-going sensitive photographs and comments are so very well appreciated.

  7. My condolences. We believe that mother always prays for our well being and losing her means we must be careful from now on. No one to fall back to. It is a very difficult time. I have been there. May she rest in peace in heaven.

  8. Condolences to you and yours. A cracking image I’m sure she would have loved as it captures the character of the donkeys so well.

  9. Take it easy Buddy! 🙂 I’ve been where you are and its crap – but it eases off with time. When I felt low, I grabbed a camera and played with it for a bit. Loads of us out here with you!

  10. My sincere and heartfelt condolences on the passing of your Mother, Robin. My folks passed over many years ago. I was not there at the end for either my Mom or Dad and that weighs heavy on me to this day. I think of them every day and I know that they will always be there looking after me. There isn’t a day that goes by when we talk about something and that is always is a wonderful brief moment. Keep heart, your Mom will always be there for you, Robin..!!
    My thoughts are with you…

  11. I lost my father ten years ago in a similar way. No matter how “prepared” I was, the news hit me like a ton of bricks. For what they are worth, my thoughts and positive energy are with you as you grieve.

  12. So sorry to hear your very sad news. There is no-one in the world like your mum. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. I am sure there is an army of us out here who feel for you and send our love. You and your mum will be in a lot of prayers tonight. x

  13. Sorry to hear of your loss but although a cliche, she is at peace now and over time the hurt will heal and you will have fond memories and images to share of the woman that was your wonderful mum.

  14. So sorry for your loss. I hope you will find happiness in the many memories you will have of your mother as you move through your life.

  15. Robin, I am so sorry to read this. It is hard to bear, even when you know it is inevitable. But we only grieve when we truly love and then we need the healing that grieving can bring. Just take the time you need – we will all be here when you return.

  16. So sorry to hear your sad news Robin. I’m sure she’s in a better place now and free from pain. There’s no shame in a good cry, you’re bound to feel your loss. God Bless, Chris

  17. Losing a cherished parent is horrible. Time helps more than anything. Have courage and be kind to yourself. My heart goes out to you.

  18. So sorry Robin, thinking of you and my heart also goes out to you. Take Care and yes we’ll all be here when you feel like returning. Tracey Hodgson.

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